Today is my husband’s birthday. We were talking about age this morning, and so this is how the seventies look for us. (Thank you Rebecca!)We look back on 65 as youth! That was when one had lots of choices. Health was no problem, children were settled into their grooves, and our parents were no longer worries, just memories. What would we enjoy doing? In our case retirement seemed a poor choice for DH. He enjoyed his work and it often involved travel, which was a big plus! Our home was well suited to our our life styles. There was a pattern to our lives…with independent projects and hobbies for each of us, lots of conversation, friends to share our thoughts with and our pets to enjoy.
But 70 marked a change which began gradually with health issues for us both. We both remain active in the areas we find important, but upkeep of the property has become more challenging. And so the question of how we spend these next years arises once again. Unwisely perhaps, we postpone the decisions. The finances are reviewed regularly and are pretty much in order. Sure, there are other details that need attention.
But. We are now the parents that we used to worry about. When to give up driving? When to see the doctor? When to retire? Where to retire to? The children are both pretty wise. (for middle-aged kids!) Fortunately, both are good listeners and keep in touch from their distant locations. We parents and our offspring include and support each other…and that is what this journey is all about.
I find the seventies to be a time where there remains deep concern over global issues as well as the more emotional issues involving family and fine friends. Although we are each involved in both spheres, my husband tends to concentrate on his research and on environmental issues, while I tend to be more attentive to listening to difficulties within the family and the problems of friends in third world countries. It works. Sure we have had deep worries and our share of sorrows. But we certainly have had many joys as well and look forward to plenty more!
It looks like retirement is now a likely option. One by one, we will be ticking off items from the big list of when to do what. How wonderful that we have options!